just do the work...

[ragani]

A friend of mine recently posted a rant/list on her blog of what amounts to what to know before asking her for advice. I found it interesting as there have been times I have felt some of what she talks about, and can see why she does.

In my case, this is NOT directed at anyone specific, I just felt it contained some good advice.

I also feel that this does not apply the same to a personal live journal.

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[emberleo.livejournal.com]

Hrm... I know that I'm a person guilty of this, in that I am "stuck" in a situation where I'm often, though not always, unhappy and have been for a while, and never find a good solution.

So I wonder... What if a person isn't happy, but all the advice and solutions that they have gathered point towards making things MUCH worse for a potentially long while before things have a possibility of getting better.

Should such a person (me) just suck it up and shut up, to avoid irritating everybody around them, or do they have a right to say "Dammit, this still makes me unhappy, and none of the solutions at my disposal actually HELP"?

On the up side, I'm actually pretty damned happy lately - I've realized that if I can get up the emotional stamina to do school full time that my Mom will give me enough money to stay mostly afloat, and also that I don't need to be in a hurry to solve the not-getting-married-and-having-kids problem.

--Ember--

only human

[ragani.livejournal.com]

What if a person isn't happy, but all the advice and solutions that they have gathered point towards making things MUCH worse for a potentially long while before things have a possibility of getting better...

Change, especially the "uproot yourself from a comfortable situation to risk that you can make things better in the long run" kind is something people avoid, and we are all guilty of this. If, in asking for advice, you keep hearing that it is what you should do (especially from different sources), it is still up to you to decide if you want to take that step. I think one of her points is that once you have heard the advice, and chosen not to follow it, it is uncool to keep whining about it if you have not done anything about it, at least to the same person who gave the advice.

On the other hand, I feel that one of the whole points of a journal (traditional or LJ) is to give the writer an outlet that does not have that condition. The "read at your own risk" disclaimer seems almost redundant, although I have seen people who have to remind their "readers" of this more than once.