This weekend, a man who I do not care for very much given the way he has treated his [soon to be ex]-wife and child came up and engaged me in coversation. He was obviously trying for the pity card and being able to tell "his" side of the story. I wasn't interested in hearing it and there was a particular remark he made about how envious he was that I got to spend time with his son [intimating that he'd been out of state when the most recent occurance was a direct result of him not being able to handle a full day with his son so I volunteered for the next weekend].
I bristled and wanted to point out such to him. But I didn't. I didn't know how to be mean. I stood there, made idle conversation about what a joy the boy is, and then retreated at the first opportunity.
I railed at many friends throughout the rest of the day. It bothered me greatly that I have so much vitrol for this man and yet stood and smiled and chatted.
FanBoy offered me the following out, knowing how much I dislike being mean: I'm sorry, [name], but my husband has requested that I not speak with you.
Cop out? Sure. But it is something I can say to get rid of the man.
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Date: 2004-12-21 11:14 am (UTC)I bristled and wanted to point out such to him. But I didn't. I didn't know how to be mean. I stood there, made idle conversation about what a joy the boy is, and then retreated at the first opportunity.
I railed at many friends throughout the rest of the day. It bothered me greatly that I have so much vitrol for this man and yet stood and smiled and chatted.
FanBoy offered me the following out, knowing how much I dislike being mean: I'm sorry, [name], but my husband has requested that I not speak with you.
Cop out? Sure. But it is something I can say to get rid of the man.
Zhaneel